What does it mean to be Christian and single? In the
best-case scenario, it means living a life devoted to God, going to church
regularly, fellowshipping with your friends and being a good friend, daughter,
mother, sister, etc. And - let's not forget that all-important caveat - being
celibate. It's a not-so-well-kept secret, however, that most single Christians
are not - celibate that is. Most of us seem to have 'periods' of celibacy -
lasting anywhere from a few weeks to a few years and then find ourselves
falling right back off the wagon for a (temporary) fix. I have had my seasons
of celibacy, watched my friends in their seasons and seen celebrities proclaim
they will enter marriage a 'virgin'. And, what do most of us have in common? We
fail, fail and fail again. (And hats off to those who have been celibate, remain
celibate or enter marriage as a virgin.)
Let's see XnXX Brasil -
once you have had sex (and enjoyed it), it's really, really hard to go back to
that pre-knowledge state. Where sex was an idealized fantasy and you would find
true love (or, at the very least - release) and it would all fade out into a
pleasantly fuzzy happily ever after. Until you wake up.
Once you cross that line, you realize life will never be the
same. You feel a combination of remorse and (this is what always trips you up)
curiosity. Was that as good as it gets? Or - wow, that was even better than I
thought it would be! Should I try again to be celibate or does this mean it's
over? Well, I didn't immediately go to Hell, so maybe....just maybe...I can get
away with this at least one more time.
And you do. Time and again. Until it almost becomes easier
just to continue having sex than go through all the trauma of trying to give it
up. To date someone and spend long sessions at his house or yours instead of having
long walks in the park. To just stop thinking about it and put it up on the
shelf of 'I'll deal with it...one day.' Just not today, right?
I am not here to preach to you, to tell you right from wrong
or any of that stuff (and I'm sure you know all the same Bible scriptures I do
about remaining celibate). The simple truth of the matter is that all
Christians fall short in one way or another. We lie, we cheat, we are gluttons,
we are judgmental - just take your pick. So, it's awfully hard to point the finger
at someone else when we are not exactly shining examples of clean vessels
ourselves. Sometimes I think a whole lot more good would be done in the Body of
Christ if we were all just a little more understanding of one another instead
of the way we are now. But I digress...
So, if the above describes you, do what we all find
ourselves doing - pray. Ask for forgiveness. Learn from your mistakes. And
maintain your relationship with God at all costs. You can be celibate - for a
season or until you get married - if you really, really, really want to. It is
possible - but it will require discipline, consistency and being deeply buried
in God. Following is a chapter that will give you some insight into resisting
temptation of all types - including the temptation to have sex.
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